i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

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And if youre the one resenting your partners pet, be clear about what you need to feel better. My family however? Because that dog doesnt listen at all! My mom told me if things had been different, I would have loved the dog. I watch the dogs all day when my husband is at work. Thank you, however kenneling is not something my hubby and I support. Our brains are capable of complex thought and emotion! and our He literally chewed through the bars. Im willing to work something out with the dog/chewing situation but weve tried everything we can think of. I knew he really wanted a dog, so I helped him find one. My boyfriend hates my dog and is really mean to him, I love his dog I just get tired and frustrated of him not respecting me. They lack human thought and cognitive ability but she trained them to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior. Its getting to the point where my boyfriend doesnt even want the dog in the livingroom anymore. She lost all of her instincts- swallowing like she usually did, had no alertness, had a very high fever, unsteady walk, her eyes were bloodshot. Please tell me if thats normal? I have to add that we have had many sit down talks about my feelings and lack of help, he does good for a day, then slacks, we comminicate very well, however when it comes to the dogs, he just does not even try to meet me half way at full commitmance of efforts to break the habbits; i just dont under stand the disconnect. She is hard to discipline, doesnt listen, and very nervous. My partner has two dogs and as much as they are cute I can not stand them for me everyday is a struggle, I cant stand the smell (dogs have this natural odor I hate), I cant stand the begging the dog hairs everywhere, the constant attention seeking. I can certainly feel your pain. Hahahah. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Fast forward a few years and quite a bit of work, I moved her away from all of her life threatening habits and got her cleaned up, I bought a house and we now have a child together. Other people have told him about how annoying and out of control his dog is, but my husband is in denial. Even if your dog has biological problems, like my BFs anxiety-ridden dog, training really helps. I feel NO PEACE OR HARMONY WITH THAT LITTLE DEMON THING. People like you are IMPORTANT in this world. We have constant fights about it, especially when I try to discuss any sort of training with him. I am not an animal person. An animal, is an animal. Even after surgeries I have had, he has refused to take the dog out and I would have to with me barely able to move. IMO cooking for your dog is a little over the top and Id be annoyed by it too. He used to send me cat videos, say how cute to them, stroke them when we met one on the streets and so on. Dogs only want to please their master and its up to you to spend the money or Time to learn how. to help and support them in ways that animals cannot. Of course, no problem. He obsesses over every detail related to this dog what it eats, what it plays with, where it is, how often it poops, etc. I do not want to toss out my engagement but I do not know how much more I can take. I do agree with you as far as how a couple individually interacts with a pet. When the oldest was 4, I adopted my sisters cat who had been displaced because she got a Labrador retriever and the dogs behavior relegated him to the basement. Later I thought, hed save me and blame me for the dog drowning. My work laptop, INSIDE my work bag has hair in it. I was beginning to look at my husband quite differently and cry. I have asked numerous times for him to get his 9inch nails clipped but that also goes ignored. I dunno how because she was never bathed her entire life or brushed before we began living together. A person chuckles when they first see him. I was able to love the dog when I didnt have to do so much for her. He has let his own life turmoil set the behavior of this dog. He said that I will always come before the dog and that he will try to make this work. My marriage is ending after 4 years. Wink. Anyhow if you have to rehome the dog, dont just look for a shelter. What has happened that this is happening? Well I was in a toxic relationship for almost a year trying to help my now-ex overcome his addiction. I have beaten him and it still doesnt work! I truly dislike it when people amphorize pets into human beings. Living in Sweden alone I longed for a pet to love and to relieve the loneliness that Ive experienced. He was the sweetest dog & loved everyone he came in contact with. My boyfriend can't handle that this dog is bouncy, happy to see him and that he wants to cuddle with him. Does that lazzyness (sp) apply to other issues as well such as keeping the house clean? I find this very unsanitary. He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. she even calls the dog on sometimes. But apparently it was too much to ask, because we have had so many massive fights about it. I was irritated and so was he. My bofriend wanted me to move in. His dog will lick and lick me which makes me cringe as I ahte the smell of woof woof. He says Beau always has to be outside. As everyone agrees, this small nip never gonna draw blood. As humans we are supposed to have some capacity of having emotional responses to animals that are completely different to those that we have of people! I think you need to keep putting your foot down because you will be married soon and you have to matter. So here is the problem: My dog loves animals. But a change as simple as teaching your dog not to beg or keeping your cat off the bookshelf could remedy the issue. Lucy, Im glad I offered something relatable. Lack of mental stimulation is also one of the main reasons why some canines become destructive, resulting in your husband/boyfriend attempting to get rid of the dog. Giving affection isnt sufficient. He doesnt want to get rid of the dogs even though Ive calmly discussed how hes putting his feelings before mine & care more about his desire. In fact, whats the point of adopting a dog if you cannot care about him. So Steve got the puppy, did well to take care of it, for the first month or so. But it has come down to him or my dog this is literally breaking my heart we are broken up right now over this!! I am greatful that many people think like myself and know that animals are not people. I gently nudged it off, because there werent room for the two of us, and it attacked me. I didnt dislike the dog till after my baby was born. He claimed that he was lost and disconnected and that he regrets what he had done, that he felt very bad afterwards etc. None of the begging nonsense excessive unnecessary barking etcfast forward. Now we are in love and he wants me to dump dogs at a shelter and move away with him. I was in a long distance relationship for a very long time and recently uprooted to move all the way across the country to be with my significant other. Now I have been VERY clear about where I stand with her dog. The dog has serious issues!! I was loving. What happened to Rover retrieving the newspaper or slippers and just being happy laying at his/her masters feet? Her dog could go next door and like you said, be fed a steak, and stay over there forgetting who she is. I think it is absolutely disgusting. My wife and I agreed that if the dog bit our little ones (before our first child was ever born) that the dog would have to goshe has reneged on that agreement upon the first bite. And he was totally inflexible by saying that he wouldnt give up sleeping with his precious Mesa for anything. Kick her and the dog out. She was 8 weeks old and super tiny and cute. If you can ascertain the exact reason why your husband/boyfriend wants to rehome the dog, you might be able to persuasion him not to do so by resolving that particular issue. Hes a good dog but senses that my husband doesnt like him so hes afraid of him. Why isnt she by the window sniffing the air like other dogs? Anyhow, we moved to a house where I agreed to keep my dog in his own section of the house in the kitchen/laundry room so if he were to have an accident, which infuriates my husband, then it wouldnt be hard to clean up. Besides the above, supervising its water intake, choosing the correct brush, choosing the correct shedding tool are also can impact the amount of shedding in your dog. Omg,I can soooooooo relate- except that my SO has cats instead of a dog. She did the bed thing ONCE in the beginning and I only got one hour sleep and was a wreck the next day and said never again. Dogs behave the way we TRAIN them to behave. So..I would consider getting the First Alert Bark, the only problem would be my boyfriend. Because my partner lets her do whatever she wants against how I feel. I hate dog/cat hair all over everything I own and I do not appreciate being disregarded so someone can pet, rub, snuggle, and baby talk their pet. Even said we should sleep separate! My fianc s daughter (8) hates dogs and my fianc is not a pet person. After leaving his other owners, he was just in her house as shes feeding him and petting him. And I saw a post on here that another womans husband doesnt spend time with the baby but time with the dog and I really dont want that to happen. Then we decided until she was potty trained fully, theres no sleeping in our room. It is downright disgusting. Pets are fine and you may even like them. Just recently I traveled to where he was staying with our travel trailer and working. This gives me comfort in knowing I made the proper decision. Every suggestion I make about boundaries or training is shut down and she gets very offended. My dog DOES sleep on my bed. Recently we found out the friends he left his dog with werent taking good care of the dog. My wife wont even consider the option of putting him down at this point. I love my Partner, I hate her dog. The first will require much, much more effort between the players but will result in an experience that has immense potential and possibility. Recently, hes started chewing on the carpet in our living room. Shed also sniff crotches. Im not opposed to the dog, i actually like him, but the sleeping arrangement is troublesome for me. They CAN be in a crate. Dogs are great for narcissists; they put their human on a pedestal, revolve their world around the human, and never object. Some husbands/boyfriends decide to rehome their dogs as a result of being exhausted by endeavoring to provide sufficient exercise on a daily basis. This dog is horrible and is ruining my life. He needs to meet me in the middle just as I have met his demands every time concerning the dog until now. They wish to treat them as children/humans yet the animal truly does not want this instinctively. I married my husband almost 2 years ago. Be there to listen and learn, not to pressure your daughter into doing what you want. He smells SOOO bad!!!! How many times has your human company shown physical aggression and chased away a dog? A dog cannot call you out when youre wrong like a person can. Oh hell no. He has been good with many things we have compromised. Plus the dog is actually better trained than most dogs and hangs on every word of his owner. I am soon going to be 78 years old and hope that there will be a time when I can have time without them before I pass on. thanks. Weve been married almost four years and the dog died from old age after the first three years of my marriage to her owner. I am a person that loves animals (yes, dogs too), but I prefer cats. If your partner is annoyed by a specific behavior such as excessive scratching, its time to call an expert. Any advice at this point is much appreciated. The dog whines to be requested to get let out or other who knows. I have been in love with the same woman for over 15 years but my fear is she will leave me because of our difference of opinion with her dog sleeping in our bed. Ill be moving out tomorrow. I vaccum probably twice a week, but there is still hair in the living room that drives him nuts. IT tried biting our baby!!!!!! I dont know what to do anymore! I even had my dignity as a woman taken away from me at one point when my husband was ill and I walked into the living room to find the dog laying with her back against the couch and him laying on the floor facing her placing her rear legs on his side. When the cat-killer came into the house, I put the plans to declaw the kittens on hold and in the process the dog and cats have destroyed a brand new carpet and generally make a mess. Its my philosophy that if you cant spend at least five minutes a day with your pet then its time you dont have one! My DH would tell me I was selfish. He doesnt feed him, water him, or even acknowledge him except for when he has an accident which may be once a month. I loved them, played with them, protected and cared for them, but they never usurped my relationship with a member of my family or a man. We now have a 2 month old baby and as you could figure, I am extremely busy with him. I have no idea why those words are being shouted out when not one have I said its me or the dog, which by the way I have every right to if we arent a fit anymore. Im tired of fighting over her. Yes i knew that, but i didnt know it was so bad! I know I need to talk to my husband about this but it would just end up with both of us being hurt and tearful so I need to address how I feel before I broach the subject with him somehow! I think thats why her previous owners got rid of her they didnt list a reason. Make sure consistent brushing and regular bathing. This decreases the amount of time and emotional energy you have available to spend on your relationship with each other. Three months after we married he came down with bronchitis. I call her the furry wife and thats exactly what she has been. I saw the affection they shared and the love and happiness gained from their relationship. Later I said, hed save me and blame me for the dog dying. Petsitting misbehaving dogs who may miss their humans is not the wisest plan of action either. for instance a rat terrier I knew would boss her human around by not obeying or listening to her humans half hearted commands. This thing is hyper and destructive, and my husband refuses to make it ever behave. Its a serious point of contention. I have asked for the dog to go to his mothers. At this point, I highly recommend you to go with a dog trainer. Dogs can be wonderful pets, but people dont realize the WORK that goes into having a well adjusted, healthy dog. Thought if I could help train, it would turn out okay. He only holds her for about 20 mins tops and 2 times a day. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. He is the best thing that happened to me. I absolutely LOATHE our dog. 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